For the majority of my life I rarely stepped outside of anything that felt uncomfortable and when I did a lot of anxiety and worry showed up.
That’s what happens when you experience emotional events in your childhood or youth that you can’t process in a healthy way. They stay stuck inside you growing toxic and prevent you from living your life fully.
I am not blaming anyone for these events, they were my destiny and some were decisions I made from fear because I didn’t know any better and was trying to fit in and feel accepted. I trust I was meant to experience every one of these painful experiences and I am at peace with my past knowing all the lessons I learned grew me into who I am now and they are not who I am.
What these lessons have also taught me is to remind myself to ask questions. Why we do the things we do is often not thought about and we are operating on autopilot. If asked why we do what we do we may say, because it’s always been done that way or that’s just the way we do it, or the way it is.
Well I call BS on that if it’s not working or serving you.
There are many things society tells us is ‘normal’ and if we don’t fit into the box then it’s implied there is something ‘wrong’ with us and we need to conform.
Living a Radical Life means to question ways of being, concepts, myself and others with curiosity. I love to dig deeper into the Why of things, it’s my analytical mind always inquiring to learn more and since I’ve paired it with my intuition it’s way more fun to play detective with what’s going on with me, my clients, my take on the world …. and I love finding meaning to life.
Do you remember what we were told when we made a bad decision and our excuse was ‘well everyone else did it so I thought it was a good idea.’ and the response was something like ‘If everyone jumped off a bridge would you?’
I do agree with this theory, why do we do things just because everyone else is doing it?
There’s a human conditioning that compels us to want to fit and be accepted as part of the tribe and we are also conditioned by our parents and society in general that in order to be accepted we must behave certain ways.
So after all of this conditioning it can get pretty confusing and we don’t trust our intuition to guide us to the best decision for us. Instead we listen to others who ‘seem to’ have it all together and can confidently stand in their power and tell us how to live our life … and so many of us believe it ….. well not me anymore.
I’m not saying they are wrong, but maybe they are not right for me. So I question it. I check in and see how it feels in my body. What is my intuition saying? How does it feel? Not what do I think …. I believe we all have this choice, we may have given our power away a long time ago and we don’t trust our self but our inner knowing is still there deep inside.
I say do you, for instance, if getting up at 5am isn’t your thing because your energy is better later in the day then don’t feel bad about it, take what resonates from others successes and leave the rest behind. Find your own sweet spots, play detective with yourself by observing your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, they will tell you a lot if you’re open and paying attention.
Listen to your body, connect with it, it’s your GPS to what support you need.
I now listen with an open mind and heart and set the judgments aside then I make the best decision for me that is coming from a place of personal power and love not fear.
I have faith in myself and the Universe that I will receive what I am meant to experience and I can handle it because it’s all for my growth.
What’s your definition of living a radical life? Do you question and discern what’s right for you?
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Namaste ~ Lorree Appleby