The importance of forgiveness is talked about more and more these days. When we can’t forgive we have trouble moving on with our life, we can carry around anger, resentment and bitterness from the past and it shows up in our lives affecting our current relationships.
But what if you really just don’t like the person? Once you have forgiven them are you suppose to like them?
NO! Not at all!
I get this question a lot and it’s a common one that I too wondered when I was first navigating forgiveness.
One of the things I love about Radical Forgiveness is that it’s rooted in the ‘World of Humanity’ just as much as it is in the ‘World of Divine Truth’.
These terms are from Colin Tipping and basically he is referring to our reality here on planet Earth and what’s going on behind the scenes. I’m talking about the spiritual big picture, which is not our reality for the most part, but we do get glimpses of it and the more ‘awakened’ we are the more glimpses we get.
So back to the answer to the question….
We always want to be a human first. No one is saying we are suppose to like the person who we are forgiving, maybe they do not share our morals or are just not on our wave length but we can appreciate that from the soul level they are in our life to teach us lessons for our growth and possibly point us closer towards our mission of being here in the first place.
They don’t know this of course and we may never figure out the why and how of it all but it all goes back to the fact that if we have strong judgement and get upset about someone else’s behaviour then it’s a signal there is some type of learning for us in the situation.
This is a good time to practice Radical Forgiveness so we can unblock and transform the stuck energy and prevent ourselves from feeling like a victim for too long.
It’s completely normal to feel victimized when an upset happens, we just don’t have to stay there. This is when we can become empowered and be in control of our emotions and reactions towards the other person and the situation as well as possibly projecting our feelings about it onto someone who doesn’t have anything to do with it.
When you don’t feel like a victim and you know there is something bigger going on you will find you don’t get upset like you did before when the person who you don’t care for is just being them.
We always have choices. We can find ways to be true to ourselves by spending less or little time with them as well as accepting them as they are, they just aren’t for us.
The big thing to remember is to always take the learning from it. If you don’t see it then sit back and observe the situation, what are your thoughts and feelings about it, what is being mirrored to you by them?
Find the message in the mess and take the high road. You will feel great about how you handled it and they will wonder why they don’t have the same affect on you anymore. 😉